Tag: relationships

I forgot my ex-fiancée’s hairstyle. I realized that while high, camping alone in Wyoming. I had to look it up, but the thought made me cry. I think about her daily, sometimes with nostalgia, sometimes with sadness or guilt, sometimes I just remember her giggle or the way she wrinkled her nose. But I rarely…

I didn’t drink regularly until I was 23 and I didn’t use marijuana until it became legal in Nevada, so when I say I tried LSD twice at age 35, it was a big deal for me. The motivation and reasoning were simple, dull even. My friends were advocating for it, including a very Christian,…

It’s my golden birthday right now. Hard to be more meaningful than that. I was born 29 years ago right now on May 29, 1985. Snapshot of my life: I am moving out of my lovely house to move in with my girlfriend over the summer. Then, in August, I’m moving to Halifax, NS to…

My friend Benjamin Jagear used to always say to me, “Pixel – look at all of the problems in your life and ask yourself: how many of those problems were caused by your enemies and how many can be traced back to your friends?” The idea was simple: your enemies, in real life, tend to…

It’s a multi-step process, actually.  I’ll divide it into Before, During, After, and Throughout. Before Be friends.  Let simmer for at least three months, but ideally six. Treat your friends and their friends well. Sprinkle good experiences throughout. During Don’t cheat. Don’t lie. Don’t steal. Don’t abuse physically/mentally. Say what you mean, mean what you…

I.  Go back to her Beg Plead Negotiate Claim to just want to “talk” Pretend that you just really want to go back to being her friend II.  Confrontation With her a.  In public b.  In private c.  Out of nowhere (avoid for stalkerish reasons) With some guy (violence optional) a.  In public b.  In…